If you’re one of the few women who can pull off multiple orgasms like they’re NBD, congrats! For the rest of us, multiple orgasms continue to be one of those holy grail sex myths. And even though research suggests vagina owners can absolutely experience multiple orgasms, it’d be a lot easier to get on board if we’d ever experienced one ourselves.
“The average woman is built to come again and again,” says Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, coauthor of The Multi-Orgasmic Woman, who previously told Cosmopolitan. This means that once you’ve mastered that first peak, the climb to the next one is absolutely obtainable.
“Women don’t require a refractory period like men do, so we’re able to stay aroused for longer and have an orgasm a second and third time with little effort,” Dr. Abrams previously told Cosmopolitan.
So if you’re looking for tips on how to improve your odds of experiencing the mythical multiple orgasm, you’ve come to the right place. Below, five vagina havers who live that life explain exactly what it feels like to have multiple orgasms.
What are multiple orgasms?
“Multiple orgasms are orgasms experienced in succession. There’s no buildup required to have a second orgasm after the first, they happen quickly thereafter and can feel like rolling orgasm.” –Nicole, 37
“They’re exactly that: a muscular response with a build-up and climax that occurs more than once during a single sex session. My body usually responds more intensely when I’m having a second or third orgasm, and they can make me feel more connected to my body.” —Andi, 35
“For me, it is when my body has an orgasm without completely coming down from the previous one.” —Tai*, 33
“It’s where my body cums more than one time during sex. It’s the most amazing feeling ever.” —Kiedra, 36
“To experience multiple orgasms means to climax more than once back to back, within one sexual session. The time in between may vary, but after an orgasm, I have a short refractory phase before I am able to climax again. I have gotten quite good at listening to my body and will know if I am able to experience multiples or not.” —Megan, 28
What does it feel like to experience multiple orgasms?
“It feels like rolling waves of pleasure. Almost like fireworks where there’s one explosion and it’s beautiful and then another one comes shortly after, and it’s great too.” —Nicole
“Physically it feels like a faster build up and more intense climax. Emotionally, it connects me more with my body and partner.” —Andi
“It feels like a magical bonus. Usually, the second or third one sneaks up on me.” —Tai*
“It feels pure, like a solid release. I have never smoked weed before, but I imagine that would be the same type of feeling. Pure ecstasy, an entire body high.” —Kiedra
“The first one is usually the most intense, and those that follow are still pleasurable, but often less climactic and shorter lasting.” —Megan
When did you have your first multiple orgasm experience? Was it by yourself or with a partner?
“I first experienced multiple orgasms with a partner, my first love who I met in college. I actually experienced my first orgasm ever with him, so it was pretty special to experience that, and then, to realize, wow, I could also experience multiple orgasms with him. Since then, I’ve been able to experience multiple orgasms by myself and with certain partners. I would say that I never experienced multiple orgasms during a one night stand or hookup. If it’s been with a partner, it’s always been a situation where I felt safe with them.” —Nicole
“I don’t recall the exact timing, but I was probably in my late 20s, nearer to 30. It was by myself, which is more often the case even today.” —Andi
“I was about 19 when I first experienced my first multiple orgasm experience. It was with a partner and was also my first time having an orgasm from a guy going down (cunnilingus).” —Tai*
“My first experience was actually by myself and a personal toy. My second experience was with my partner.” —Kiedra
“My first experience with multiple orgasms was during a solo session. I have always been sexually curious, and I fed this curiosity by exploring my body in ways that gave me the most pleasure. Once I figured out what I liked, I started to have the ability of multiple orgasms. I discovered that adding sex toys enhances the intensity of my orgasms and helps create additional orgasms, especially when using toys with a partner. I like to give the toy(s) to my partner to let them explore my body as well, adding to heightened visual sensation for everyone involved.” —Megan
Are multiple orgasms painful?
“I have never experienced multiple orgasms as painful, however, I would say that there can sometimes be a feeling of increased sensitivity—especially with a clitoral orgasm. It’s not painful per say, but it definitely feels like a very sensitive spot after multiple orgasms.” —Nicole
“I wouldn’t say they’re painful, but my body is much more sensitive to touch and can feel a little overwhelmed. So any touching afterward usually has to wait a bit.” —Andi
“I see how it could be since an orgasm feels like a short, powerful workout. However, that hasn’t been my experience.” —Tai*
“ I have never had a painful one, but afterwards, your body becomes very sensitive, so it’s more an uncomfortable or tender feeling.” —Kiedra
“This is something I have not experienced. I can imagine if sex, or orgasms, are ever painful that this is something to communicate to your partner. Maybe the introduction of more foreplay or lube can be beneficial. Or maybe this is something personally that needs to be addressed with a health care professional before continuing with sex.” —Megan
How often do you experience multiple orgasms?
“Probably about one out of five times during intercourse. It depends on how present I am in my body. If it’s by myself, I’d say one out of two times I can easily experience multiple orgasms.” —Nicole
“I don’t experience them very often. I’ve managed a second orgasm maybe ten times my entire life and a third maybe two or three times.” —Andi
“Just about every time I receive oral sex.” —Tai*
“Every time I have sex. My partner and I have sex maybe four times a month but every time, I experience multiple orgasms.” —Kiedra
“During a solo session, I can usually experience multiple orgasms every single time, depending on what my mood is. I am very stimulated by visuals I create in my head, and so for most of my solo sessions I am able to visualize my deepest fantasies. I was able to climax seven times in one session through mental stimuli and self-indulgence. With a partner, it really depends on stamina, comfortability, and how compatible we are sexually. If these stars align, I can experience multiple orgasms with a partner with almost with every sexual encounter. I once spent a day with a man where we took turns pleasing each other for hours on end, getting to know the ins and outs of what we both took pleasure in, and I was able to experience five orgasms over those few hours of stimulation.” —Megan
Is there any specific technique or sex position that helps you achieve multiple orgasms?
“A position that works really well is missionary, with my legs straight and tight to my body and my hips a bit elevated—either on a pillow or on an angle. In that position, it feels like everything is being stimulated from my clit because of the tight squeeze.” —Nicole
“Really focusing on how my body feels and listening to how turned on I am makes a difference for me. Sometimes it’s just not in the cards, and I can tell immediately. But if I’m still turned on after my first orgasm, I listen to how my body responds to more stimulation and go with whatever it’s telling me.” —Andi
“I typically have most plural orgasms when receiving oral sex in sniper position (partner on their stomach). A huge part of what I do is to just allow myself to surrender to the pleasure. Sometimes, that calls for slow jams, wine, and a hot wax massage. Other times, the passion just takes me there.” —Tai*
“Missionary, me on top, and my partner eating me out.” —Kiedra
“I love being on top. I have the most control and am usually able to experience the most intense orgasms in this position because of the angle and depth of penetration. But it also helps to switch positions between orgasms.” —Megan
Of your friends and other vagina havers, how many of them experience multiple orgasms? Do you feel like a unicorn or is it pretty common in your circle?
“Of the few people I’ve talked to about sex, none have ever mentioned having multiple orgasms, but I don’t think every woman will have as much control as she needs and be in touch with her body as much as it requires to achieve it. But that doesn’t mean she can’t get there with practice.” —Andi
“I feel like within my group of friends, it’s about split. The ones that haven’t, to be honest, it seems like they don’t know their bodies and what they like. Like they’ve never played with toys or anything to open themselves up sexually.” —Kiedra
“I would say the majority of vagina havers in my friend circle are able to and/or have experienced multiple orgasms. As much as anything has the potential to be achievable, I do believe most, but maybe not all, vagina havers can experience multiple orgasms. Even if multiple orgasms aren’t achievable for some, this is completely fine and normal.” —Megan
Any advice on how to achieve multiple orgasms for those who want to experience it?
“During sex, focus on being super present to every sensation in their own body. Breathe deeply and just try to feel pleasure as much as possible. Getting into your head during sex and worrying about how you look, how you sound, or needing to be perfect to please your partner is likely going to inhibit you from being present enough in your own body to experience one orgasm, let alone multiple ones.” —Nicole
“I would recommend getting some toys and exploring yourself first to know what you like. Then, have an open conversation with your partner and bring those ideas into the bedroom.” —Kiedra
“A lot of sexual pleasure comes from learning about it, knowing your own body, and building sexual confidence within yourself. Solo sessions are a key factor in enhancing sexual experiences and being open to exploring fantasies in a safe, consensual way. But also, pick a partner who listens to your desires and respects boundaries, because the sexual possibilities are orgasmic.” —Megan
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